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Essential Details To Provide Your Attorney For An Effective Consultation

By: Danielle Ostrovsky August 30, 2023 1:17 am

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Essential Details To Provide Your Attorney For An Effective Consultation

Did You Know?

Any information shared by the client with their attorney, whether written or spoken, is considered confidential. This includes discussions about legal matters, strategies, advice sought, and more.

Deciding to end a marriage is a significant one. It is filled with emotion and a lot of unknowns. If you find yourself in this situation, one of the first and most important things you should do is contact a divorce attorney. This is more than just paperwork and legal jargon. Rather, it is an opportunity to establish the tone and direction of your legal journey, allowing you to gain clarity, have your questions answer, and have someone help you develop an effective roadmap in ending your marriage.

This isn’t a one-way street in which the attorney does all of the talking. Instead, it’s a collaborative process in which your input is just as important as the legal advice you receive. Your attorney cannot effectively represent you unless he or she has a thorough understanding of your situation, concerns, and case objectives. And this understanding is dependent on the information you provide during your consultation.

But what exactly should you share? During emotional turmoil and legal uncertainties, you may find yourself lost on what to discuss. We’ve crafted this blog as guide to help you navigate your initial consultation. Here, we break down the essential details you need to provide your attorney during the initial consultation – from personal information and family dynamics to financial details, communication history with the other party, and your specific goals for the litigation.

As we journey through this together, remember that your preparation plays an essential role in the effectiveness of your consultation. Your divorce attorney’s ability to help you is directly proportional to the accuracy and thoroughness of the information you provide. So, let’s dive in and uncover how to prepare for a productive consultation with your divorce attorney.

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Personal Background Information

Understanding the complexities of a divorce case necessitates a thorough examination of your personal history. This may appear to be a formality, but it is the foundation of your case.

To begin, you must provide basic information about yourself and your spouse. These include your name, the date of your marriage, and if you and your spouse have children, the names, dates of birth and residential addresses of your children over the last five years. These facts establish the foundation for your case and may have a significant impact on various aspects of the divorce process, such as jurisdiction, applicable laws, custody (parental responsibility and timesharing) issues if children are involved.

In addition to the hard facts, giving your attorney an insight into your personal life and lifestyle can be invaluable. This encompasses your occupation, hobbies, social life, daily routines, and any other elements that shape your way of living. This information paints a picture of your personal and family life, offering your attorney a glimpse into the aspects of your life that could come under scrutiny during the divorce proceedings or that may dictate how the divorce proceedings will likely unfold.

Lastly, it’s important to share what led you to consider divorce and why you’ve decided to seek legal counsel. Whether it’s a sudden event, a long-brewing issue, or simply a mutual decision to part ways, this information can provide context that might be helpful in the proceedings.

The purpose of gathering these details is not prying or unnecessary curiosity; it is essential in forming a thorough understanding of your situation. This understanding allows your attorney to anticipate potential issues, construct a tailored case strategy, and provide counsel that aligns with your specific circumstances.

Lifestyle and Family Dynamic

The legal aspects of divorce don’t exist in a vacuum. Instead, they interplay with the day-to-day realities of your life. Therefore, giving your attorney a clear picture of your lifestyle and family dynamics is critical.

Share details about your job, your typical day, and how household responsibilities are distributed between you and your spouse. Is one of you the primary breadwinner, or do both of you contribute to the family income? How are childcare responsibilities shared if you have children? Understanding these dynamics helps your attorney evaluate potential outcomes regarding spousal support, child custody, and division of marital property.

Moreover, you should also discuss any significant lifestyle changes you anticipate post-divorce. Whether it’s relocating for a job, starting a new business, or going back to school, these plans can impact various facets of your case, such as support needs or parenting schedules.

Assets and Liabilities

A significant part of the divorce process involves the division of assets and liabilities, and achieving a fair division hinges on full financial disclosure.

This starts with providing a detailed account of all assets held by you and your spouse. These can include properties, vehicles, investments, retirement accounts, businesses, and even personal items of value. Don’t forget to mention any premarital assets that you brought into the marriage, as this can influence how assets are divided.

Next comes your liabilities – mortgages, loans, credit card debt, and any other financial obligations. It’s equally important to provide accurate information about these, as they can impact the financial settlement of your divorce.

Remember, your attorney isn’t there to judge your financial situation but to advocate for your best interests. Ensuring they have a complete understanding of your financial picture allows them to negotiate effectively on your behalf and help secure a fair financial outcome in your divorce.

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Communication History with the Other Party

In the maze of divorce proceedings, the history of your interactions and communications with your spouse can serve as a useful guide. This history can shed light on the dynamics of your relationship and provide crucial context to your case.

If there have been any prior legal engagements, like prenuptial agreements, it is essential to bring these to your attorney’s attention. Such agreements can significantly influence divorce proceedings, particularly in matters related to asset division and spousal support.

You should also discuss any recent interactions or communications with your spouse regarding the divorce. If you have already negotiated or agreed upon certain issues, whether formally or informally, your attorney needs to know. This information can help them assess the case’s current standing and devise an effective legal strategy.

Children Involved

If you and your spouse have children together, they undoubtedly represent a major consideration in your divorce. Child custody (parental responsibility and timesharing) and support issues are among the most emotionally charged aspects of any divorce, and your attorney needs detailed information to handle these issues effectively.

You will need to provide basic details like your children’s ages, dates of birth, schools, health status, and any special needs they might have. Additionally, you should share the current parenting arrangement and how responsibilities are shared between you and your spouse, if one exists.

More than just the facts, you should discuss your hopes and concerns regarding your children’s future post-divorce. Do you hope to equal custody (timesharing) or you are looking to have a majoirty? Are there concerns about your spouse’s parenting capabilities that need to be addressed such as drugs or alcohol use?

By providing a clear picture of your children’s current situation and your future aspirations, you enable your attorney to work towards a custody and support arrangement that safeguards your children’s best interests while aligning with your goals.

Goals for the Litigation

While divorce may seem like a mess of legal complexities, it is ultimately about your life and future. Therefore, defining and communicating your goals for the litigation is a crucial step in your consultation.

Perhaps you are seeking a speedy resolution, or maybe your focus is on obtaining a specific asset or securing certain custodial rights. Your objectives could also be more intangible, such as preserving a cordial relationship with your ex-spouse for co-parenting purposes. Regardless of what they are, these goals shape your legal strategy and the approach your attorney will adopt.

Don’t shy away from discussing your fears and concerns either. Divorce can feel like a leap into the unknown, and it’s natural to have anxieties about the process and outcome. Sharing your fears, whether they are about financial stability or the impact of divorce on your children, allows your attorney to address them and incorporate strategies to alleviate these concerns.

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The Attorney’s Role and Selection

Your divorce attorney is more than just a legal guide; they’re your advocate, strategic advisor, and sometimes, your sounding board. They will stand by your side through the challenging journey of divorce, defending your interests and working towards your goals.

But, to do so effectively, they need all the essential details we’ve discussed above. Equipped with this information, they can provide informed advice, formulate a robust strategy, and navigate legal proceedings with your best interests at heart.

Moreover, sharing these details helps both of you assess if you’ve found the right fit. The attorney-client relationship is a deeply personal one, built on trust and understanding. By having an open and comprehensive initial consultation, you can evaluate if you’re comfortable with the attorney, if their approach aligns with your expectations, and if they have the expertise to handle the complexities of your case.

This evaluation isn’t just about credentials and competence; it’s also about finding an attorney who understands your circumstances, respects your goals, and is committed to guiding you through this transition with empathy and diligence.

Remember, this is a partnership, and your inputs are as critical as the legal expertise of your attorney. Be forthcoming, ask questions, voice your concerns, and ensure that you’re stepping into this partnership feeling understood, comfortable, and confident.


Getting ready for the initial consultation with an attorney can be overwhelming, but by providing these key details, you’ll lay the groundwork for a successful attorney-client relationship and a strategic approach to your divorce. Our Florida law firm is dedicated to providing compassionate, personalized service to help you get through this difficult time. When you hire Ostrovsky Law, you are partnering with Danielle Ostrovsky – an experienced Florida divorce attorney who is committed to protecting your interests and achieving your objectives. So, provide us with the specifics and allow us to navigate the complexities of the divorce process on your behalf, providing you with the peace of mind you deserve.


  • A successful consultation with a divorce attorney necessitates sharing essential details, including confidential matters like legal strategies and advice.
  • For personal background, provide names, marriage dates, confirmation of children, insights into your lifestyle, and reasons for seeking a divorce.
  • Explain job roles, daily routines, income distribution, childcare arrangements, and anticipated post-divorce changes to illuminate your lifestyle and family dynamics.
  • Detail your assets such as properties, investments, and personal items, along with your debts like mortgages, loans, and credit card balances, including premarital assets affecting division.
  • Outline your communication history with your spouse, including past agreements, interactions, and ongoing negotiations.
  • Regarding children, offer their ages, schools, health status, and describe the current parenting arrangement as well as any concerns.
  • Define your goals for the litigation, encompassing objectives, worries, and hopes, to shape a legal strategy based on your priorities.
  • Understand the attorney’s role as an advocate, advisor, and partner, and choose a professional who matches your trust and competence criteria.
  • In conclusion, recognize that thorough preparation and sharing are crucial, and a skilled attorney is essential for navigating the complexities of divorce effectively.
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What is divorce litigation?

A divorce is “litigated” or “contested” when the spouses cannot agree on how to resolve the issues between them such as parental responsibility, timesharing, alimony, child support, division of assets and liabilities, and attorney’s fees. In this situation, one of the spouses will file a Petition for Dissolution of Marriage with the Court to begin the process.

What is the process for a litigated (contested) divorce?

Divorce litigation involves navigating the legal system to resolve the contested issues between spouses in their divorce case such as the division of assets and liabilities, spousal support (alimony), parental responsibility and timesharing, child support and attorney’s fees. It typically includes filing various documents with the court, preparing for and attending hearings where evidence is presented and testimony is taken, attending depositions and mediations, requesting and exchanging various documents and evidence, and ultimately attending trial, if necessary.

How long does a litigated (contested) divorce typically take?

The duration of a divorce from start to finish can vary based on many factors such as the complexity of the case, how many issues are contested between the spouses, whether there are minor children of the parties, the Court’s availability to set hearings and trial in a timely manner, and whether the parties are willing to reach a settlement agreement on some or all the issues. At the very least, a litigated divorce in Florida will take several months to a year or longer.

Danielle Ostrovsky

Danielle Ostrovsky is the founding partner of Ostrovsky Law, a boutique law firm that practices exclusively in the area of marital and family law throughout Broward, Palm Beach and Miami-Dade Counties.

With a sole focus on marital and family law, Danielle has refined her skills and gained extensive experience in divorce, spousal support, parental responsibility, timesharing, paternity, equitable distribution of assets and liabilities, high net worth asset division, child support, modifications and contempt of support, and prenuptial/postnuptial agreements.

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